Whoopi Goldberg said kids don’t need “coddling” — even in cases where they get “beat up.”
“I know, it’s terrible,” Goldberg, co-host of “The View,” said during a June 11 episode.
The discussion topic was a recent Wall Street Journal article about the rise of “No Contact” orders on college campuses. The Title IX notices limit contact between parties when, for example, one person reports domestic violence or sexual harassment. According to the WSJ, some college students are initiating the orders when dealing with lesser disputes in friendship or romantic relationships.
“Critics are saying these students are using these to avoid face-to-face conflict,” Goldberg said on-air. “We know lots of people try to avoid conflict, but should there be a different way to try to do this?”
Goldberg elaborated.
“When you had an issue … your mother said, ‘Listen: Go down there and tell them you are not doing that,’” said Goldberg. “Coddling children — it’s not a good thing.”
Goldberg acknowledged that many kids haven’t had the life experiences they need due to COVID interrupting their schooling and childhoods. She said parents might need to help kids learn those life lessons, but, “it doesn’t mean you do it for them.”
She pointed out, “Sometimes — and I know it’s terrible — sometimes you get beat up. Sometimes you have to make a decision. You have to say, ‘Listen, I didn’t like that. I didn’t like that.’ And then you have got to grow, you know?”
The “View” panel discussed the topic in more depth.
Co-host Sara Haines referenced a portion of the WSJ article about a college student allegedly requesting a no-contact order over “disagreements.”
“This is called being a grown adult … this is what life looks like,” said Haines. “College is the step between childhood and ‘On your own, kiddo’ — it doesn’t mean you’re not a phone call away to advise them — but you are teaching your kids and empowering them to navigate the world when you can’t be there.”
Haines added, “This is where you problem solve … you have really hard conversations … If I had called my mom and said, ‘Someone is being mean,’ she would be like, ‘OK, are you OK? Do you have food? Good. Bye.’”
“View” co-host Alyssa Farah Griffin said, “Totally agree,” adding, “Learning conflict resolution is a key part of life. You’re going to need it in any job, any community you live in, any friendships that you’re in … you have to just learn how to coexist with someone. It’s kind of a critical life skill.”
Co-host Sunny Hostin said, “I don’t know that these no-contact orders are the answer, but I will say … even though an 18 year old is considered an adult … they’re still trying to manage and since I’m parenting a 19 year old and a 22 year old, there are instances where they’re bullied. There are instances where it’s difficult for them to resolve that kind of conflict.”
Hostin added, “People are really cruel in this world.”
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