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A mother is caught in a pink-themed family fiasco when her father’s partner plans a surprise “birthday party” for her daughter, despite it not being her birthday.
The party, decorated entirely in pink, clashes with the daughter’s clear dislike of the color.
When the mother refuses to attend, chaos ensues.
Check it out.
My (33F) daughter “Cleo” (5yo) hates pink.
She has disliked the color and almost everything to do with it since she was about three or so.
She has one pink shirt she likes and one pink stuffed animal, and that’s it.
My father’s partner, “Prue,” refuses to accept that Cleo doesn’t like pink. Over the years, she’s made several attempts to push the color onto her (pretty much every gift she’s ever given her was some shade of pink), no matter how many times I tell her to stop.
She has tried to give me dozens of different reasons why I should encourage my daughter to “try different shades.”
It clearly upsets Cleo, but Prue keeps doing it.
Nothing like a mission to convert a 5-year-old to the pink side.
About a week ago, my father invited me, my husband and our children for dinner at his place.
He said he and Prue had a surprise for the kids.
Right before we left home, my younger sister (who still lives with our father) texted me.
She warned me that the “surprise” was actually a small birthday party Prue had planned for Cleo.
That alone threw me off, because my daughter’s birthday was in November.
My father did miss her actual birthday party due to work, but still.
Also, my son turns 9 in March, so I had figured his would be the next party we’d have.
So determined to celebrate pink, we’re inventing birthdays now.
Then she sent me photos of how the place was decorated, and it very clearly wasn’t actually meant for Cleo.
Literally every piece of decor was pink.
The table, the tableware, the balloons, everything.
She had gotten pink banners and glued pink foil fringe curtains on the doors.
Even the cake was pink.
I showed everything to my husband, and we agreed not to take the kids there. I texted my father the following: “Hey, (sister) told me everything. We’re not coming. We’re taking the kids to McDonalds and telling them that was your surprise. You and Prue can come if you want, we’re paying.”
We did exactly that.
My father did show up (without Prue), but he was cold with us and left 20 minutes after arriving.
Guess her “surprise” was more of a pink slip for everyone.
Both him and Prue are angry.
My father is angry that my husband and I dismissed his partner’s “heartfelt gesture” towards our daughter.
Prue also told me that I’m the reason Cleo is “restrictive” (I also don’t like pink), and I’m raising her to be an ungrateful, spoiled brat who is unwilling to compromise.
To be honest, I get how I could be in the wrong here.
But at the same time, this just felt like Prue trying to push something Cleo doesn’t like onto her yet again.
Just another way to make Cleo her pink puppet…
My sister and one of my brothers are on my side (though my sister did say I had been rude).
My other brother is on the fence.
AITA?
Despite the backlash, this mom feels justified in protecting her daughter’s boundaries, but can’t help but wonder if she could’ve handled it differently.
The people of Reddit have spoken and agree…she is NTA.
This person says it’s not her fault that her dad and Prue aren’t hearing her.
This person can’t get over how bizarre all these events are.
And this person is also questioning everything…except the fact that she is not the AH. That’s pretty clear.
Looks like the only thing getting “compromised” here is their sense of color coordination.
What an entirely weird story.
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